The Anxiety You're Afraid Of Is Already Here

Sometimes, the fear of what might happen is exactly what you're already experiencing.

I want to share a simple concept about anxiety that I think can change the way we deal with it.

A lot of times, when we're anxious, we're actually afraid of something that might happen in the future.

What if something goes wrong?

What if I can't handle the situation?

What if I lose control?

What if the anxiety becomes too much for me?

We spend so much energy worrying about what might happen that we don't realize something very important.

The anxiety we're afraid of experiencing in the future is already happening right now.

Think about it.

You're sitting there worrying that tomorrow something might happen and you'll become overwhelmed with anxiety.

But what are you experiencing right now, while you're worrying about tomorrow?

Anxiety.

You're already overwhelmed by the possibility of becoming overwhelmed.

And that's where I think we often make things much more complicated than they need to be.

We Become Afraid of Our Own Anxiety

There is the original fear of something happening, and then there's another layer of fear about how we're going to feel if it happens.

Now we're not only dealing with the original concern. We're also worrying about whether we'll be able to handle our own emotions.

And the more we fight that feeling, the bigger it can become.

We tell ourselves:

I don't want to feel this.

I need to get rid of this anxiety.

What if it gets worse?

But we're missing the most important point.

You're already feeling it. And you're here, dealing with it right now.

It might be uncomfortable. It might be painful. You might not like it at all.

But it's not something you have to imagine anymore.

It's an experience you're already having.

The First Step Is to Recognize What's Happening

One of the concepts I work on in coaching is learning to recognize reality instead of constantly trying to escape it.

When you're anxious, you don't always need to start by figuring out how to eliminate the anxiety.

Sometimes, the first step is much simpler.

Stop for a moment and recognize:

"I'm anxious right now."

Not, "I'm going to become anxious."

Not, "What if I can't handle anxiety?"

But, "I'm experiencing anxiety right now. This is what I'm feeling."

And then ask yourself a different question.

Instead of asking, "How do I make sure I never feel this?" ask, "How can I learn to handle what I'm feeling right now?"

That's a completely different approach.

You're no longer fighting an imaginary future experience.

You're working with what's actually happening inside you.

You Don't Have to Solve Tomorrow Today

Of course, sometimes we're anxious because there is a real problem that needs attention.

And I'm not suggesting we should ignore real problems.

But there is a difference between preparing for something and emotionally living through something that hasn't happened.

You can prepare for tomorrow without forcing yourself to experience tomorrow's pain today.

And when anxiety comes up, you can practice being present with it.

Breathe.

Allow yourself to notice the feeling.

Recognize the thoughts going through your mind without automatically treating every thought as a fact.

And understand that feeling anxiety doesn't automatically mean you're in danger or that something terrible is going to happen.

You don't have to fix everything in one moment.

You can learn, little by little, how to experience difficult emotions without letting them control every decision you make.

Healing Starts With Realizing

I believe one of the biggest steps toward emotional growth is learning to recognize what we're actually experiencing.

Not what we wish we were experiencing.

Not what we're afraid we might experience.

But what's happening right now.

Because as long as we're fighting the possibility of feeling anxiety, we can remain stuck in fear of the future.

When we recognize that the anxiety is already here, we have an opportunity to work with it.

To understand it.

To build our capacity to handle it.

And eventually, to become less afraid of the feeling itself.

The goal isn't to guarantee that you'll never experience anxiety again.

The goal is to reach a place where anxiety doesn't have to frighten you so much, because you know you can learn to handle it.

And sometimes, that process begins with one simple realization:

You're afraid of the anxiety that might come tomorrow. But you're already experiencing anxiety today. So instead of being afraid of it, start learning how to handle it.

Moshe Leimzider

Executive Life Coach

mosheleimzider.com

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